It’s May first!!! YAY!! I’m usually not one to complain about the weather – unless it’s really hot. I hate extreme heat. But snow and cold? I’m really okay with it. I grew up in Colorado, and it sometimes snows all the way into June (especially in the mountains). So snow in April isn’t strange for me. And rain is just warm snow!
BUT Colorado also gets lots of sunshine, so there’s a good mix of both. I learned quickly in Ohio that we don’t have nearly the same amount of sunny days, especially in winter, but I (slowly) adjusted. Usually the sun shows up around March, and mixes on and off with rainy days.
This year, though, it kept snowing in Ohio. And the sun refused to show up for more than a day or two. Even a snow loving girl can get tired of gray skies. AND this is the winter/spring of new puppies in our life, puppies who HATE going out in the cold or rain. Puppies who we really want to pee and poop outside.
But today — today it’s May first!!! I guess spring decided to make a glorious, late entrance, giving us a beautiful entrance beginning to May (and those last, long days of school) with the most glorious of sunshine-y mornings. The skies are clear, the sun is warm, and spring seems to have showed up. I guess it was worth the wait, although I wish it would have come a couple of weeks ago!
Speaking of growing up in Colorado, today’s beautiful, cloudless May First reminds me of my very young childhood. Before the internet and mommy blogs, I remember things my mom and I did together. These things are the building blocks of me, the foundations of who I’ve become.
One of those things happened May first for a few years. On May Day. My mom and I put together little May Day baskets and left them randomly on the doorsteps of friends and neighbors. The small baskets were filled with candy and treats, and we basically rang the doorbell and ran away. The point was to leave something nice (and to not let it sit outside all day) without letting the person know who dropped it off. Random Acts of Kindness before that was a thing (and I guess they weren’t that random).
We didn’t do it forever. It was only when I was really young, up until MAYBE the age of 7 or so. But it was one of the things that went into making me. I’d like to think I’m a happier person because of little things like this, but who knows? But it sure did make an impact on me, and, as a mother, it made me realize that these little things that mothers do with their children really do make an impact. These little things are remembered.
It’s been a little over a year since my mom died (that’s so hard to type, it still makes me choke up), and having memories like this make her live on in my heart. I don’t have any pictures of her and I doing this (this was way before selfies or random pictures of our May Day baskets), but I can remember what she looked like and what I looked like, as we dropped baskets off on our neighbors doorsteps quietly, without pomp or expecting thanks. We did it with grins and shhhs, quietly walking up the walks and then running away after we rang the doorbell, probably with giggles.
I didn’t do this with my girls. It just never happened, and that’s on me. But we did other things, things I didn’t think much about at the time, but that my girls remember today. Going to the zoo, on hikes, making pancakes. My older daughter remembers leaf hunts (she loved to collect ‘nature’), and picking dandelions. Both remember the weird scavenger hunts I took them on at our local park (find a rock that looks like a heart, find a purple flower), and trips to our cabin. My older daughter will remember the HOURS spent driving to and fro to swim meets, when it’s usually just her and I. These times are important, because being the older sibling to a sister with special needs, her little sister gets a lot of attention, and she needs one-on-one attention sometimes.
I hope I’m making memories with my girls that stick with them in the same way May Day baskets have stuck with me. I hope there are moments that live on JUST in their memories, without pictures. I hope they remember their childhood happily, and that they can carry my love with them into the big scary world, the same way I’ve carried my mom’s love with me.
Okay, let’s discuss another great book about being and becoming a mother: Kate Rorick’s The Baby Plan.
BOOK TITLE: The Baby Plan
BOOK AUTHOR: Kate Rorick
PUBLISHER: William Morrow Paperbacks
GENRES: Contemporary Fiction, Contemporary Women, Women's Fiction
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“Smart and funny, The Baby Plan is irresistible! A winner.” -Susan Mallery, #1 New York Times bestselling author
In The Lizzie Bennet Diaries creator Kate Rorick’s first adult fiction novel, we enter the wild, bewildering world of modern pregnancies. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll shake your head as you wonder where everyone’s sanity went...
Meet the mothers…
Nathalie Kneller: Nathalie’s plan: to announce her pregnancy now that she’s finally made it past twelve weeks! But just as she’s about to deliver (so to speak) the big news to her family, her scene-stealing sister barfs all over the Thanksgiving centerpiece. Yup, Lyndi’s pregnant too, swiping the spotlight once more…
Lyndi Kneller: Lyndi’s plan: finally get her life together! She’s got a new apartment, new promotion, new boyfriend. What she didn’t count on—a new baby! She can barely afford her rent, much less a state-of-the-art stroller…
Sophia Nunez: Sophia’s plan: Once she gets her daughter Maisey off to college, she’ll finally be able to enjoy life as make-up artist to one of Hollywood’s biggest stars, and girlfriend to one of rock’s hottest musicians. But after 18 years she discovers the stork is once again on its way…
Now these women are about to jump headlong into the world of modern day pregnancy. It’s a world of over the top gender reveal parties (with tacky cakes and fireworks); where every morsel you eat is scrutinized and discussed; where baby names are crowd-sourced and sonograms are Facebook-shared. And where nothing goes as planned...
Thank you to the publisher for providing me with a copy of this book in exchange for my honest thoughts.
I read The Baby Plan in March, at a time when my life was consumed with become the mother to two pug puppies. Not the same as a human child, AND I didn’t have to carry them in my womb for 9+ months or give birth to them, but I was a new mother (and it was planned) who was charged with getting them outside to pee and poop. In the cold that never ended and the snow and rain that constantly fell.
Rorick’s story hit a sweet spot at that time, talking about the impending motherhood for three women, along with their lives. The story is filled with the hopes and dreams of these women, along with the of love and friendships, of the strengths and disappointments of sisterhood and family.
The Baby Plan is the first adult novel written by Rorick, who has previously written for a younger audience. She does a pretty good job of crossing into the adult range, writing a book that’s not deep, but is a lot of fun. The characters are well drawn and real, the story(s) are realistic and dramatic and a lot of fun.
This one was perfect for vacation or those moments when you need something light to read. Lots of fun with a great story and wonderful characters. And sometimes that’s what you need, a diversion from your own life without having to think too much.